Ya i know this could actually make the name of a book lol.
” Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another : What! You too? I thought that no one but myself.” C.S. Lewis
This post today because I am plodding out of such a situation right now and I want to publish how awkward it gets when Two of your friends change their status into being ‘In a relationship’. Many things in the troop change and its complicated after this is declared officially. You suddenly have no idea how you are expected to behave besides being happy for them. Its considerably hard to tell when would they expect you to leave them for the sake of private intimacy between the romantic duo or when would they just want to have fun hanging around together with you being no “third wheel”. If you tag yourself around the couple a bit too often, let your conscience speak up to you when you feel like you’re actually manifesting the proverb of ‘playing the gooseberry’ in virtual terms. No offense if you’re a female or male, the odds- on is that either of the spouse is probable to envy your care and understanding as a chuddy-buddy towards the other one as something else. I’m just saying. Because shit happens when friends alter, relationships change and priorities shift. And the situations could get worse if you’re a part of a big bundled gang. Controversies sleep in the middle of every conversation and come on, everyone cannot agree with you so you can’t help but fall in someone’s eyes as you don’t have to impress everyone. Duh !!
Arsy varsy, if you’re head over heels for your partner and you belong to the other side of the equation which includes the two of you about to exhibit your feelings to the associated audience, you should prophesy the detailed reactions(by the girlfriends to the girl) right here:
- An overreaction by overly attached girlfriends of the lass in love as to ” I can’t believe you kept from me your alliance! ” says Betty. ” Why did you have to keep it a secret from us ? ” says Morgan. ” I thought you shared all your feelings with us as we do. I thought that you were being plainly true to us but i was wrong. ” says Kate. And you would have to deal with these carefully going on for all the explanations you can gather at the moment. Ya it’s a headache i know.
- Chances are probable that the girlfriends would begin to act weird and go to the extent of making you feel like you were plotting a murder or a property scandal secretly. Before you are processing things in your mind to turn them into words that can explain your causes, they would wrap up all the understanding you shared for years and react abruptly telling you to never call again and hang up the phone. Yes its really irritable I speak from my experience but it doesn’t go for every other girlfriend, just the few of them who are habitual of whirling small things into big life threatening issues.
- Then comes the part when everything seems to have chilled out but the changes are uncontrollable regarding to the acceptance and strengthening of the green lovers. Here someone would hit the J word in their hidden wit (J for jealous, i know you knew ;) ) , someone would judge you a nice match, someone would crop and love triangles to make things shake, someone would hold you up when things go the wrong way.
“The course of true love never did run smooth.” William Shakespeare. A toast to all those who have been in love and agree the quote holds true in material ways.